30 Mar The Mystery of Erotic Intelligence

Why does good sex so often fade, even for couples that love each other as much as ever?

What sustains desire, and why is it so difficult?

In her witty and eloquent TEDTalk, Esther Perel argues that good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security, and our need for surprise.

She explores the relationship between love and desire, and concludes that Love is generally an experience of HAVING, where as desire is generally an experiencing of WANTING.

So the question becomes… How can we want what we already have?

Watch this monumentally insightful video as Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship
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