04 Nov 7 Easy Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life
Sex may not be the first thing you think of when trying to improve your health and fitness or emotional life, but what a powerful source of raw energy it can create! Not to mention the deep spiritual bond it forges between you and your lover. Intimate connection in general, and sexual connection in specific, can light up and turn on many of your categories… not just your love relationship.
But in this modern day and age, with the everyday demands of life, sex can often take a backseat to more tedious, meaningless tasks. Many of us make sex out to be more work than it is, and with much less reward. But ask yourself, how rewarding is it to replace a healthy dose of physical interaction with an evening of zoning out mindlessly (and bodilessly) in front of the television, multitasking late night housework or catching up o answering emails? Does your evening routine supplement your energy, or deplete it? Look to sensual and sexual activities if you are in need of some relaxation or an energy surge!
No matter where you are on your sexual journey, it’s time to turn up the heat and become the sexual God/Goddess you know you can be. If you have a deep desire to join together with your lover and create a new level of passion and connection, these tips are for you!
Just remember, keep it simple (don’t over complicate things… they aren’t supposed to be difficult!) and maintain an open mind and a commitment to endless improvement! Sometimes all it takes is trying something new…
So here we go! 7 easy and empowering ways to spice up your sex life:
1. Own your body
First and foremost, you need to feel great about yourself. You need to feel sexy to be sexy. That’s where it all begins. So let’s make your body a fantastic place to be. During your morning routine, go the extra mile. Shave, shower, put lotion on your entire body, maybe add a little splash of cologne/perfume/essential oils, do your hair, and put on an outfit that makes you feel & look incredible. Get yourself feeling confident, beautiful and energetic from the inside out.
2. Arouse your (mental) mood
Simply THINKING about sex is one of the easiest and most overlooked ways to get in the mood. Just thinking about what turns you on or what turns your partner on can get your juices flowing. So try this on for size… Spend a day focused on thinking about and envisioning things that turn you on. Don’t let the duties of your day take you out of this head space…make it a point to spend a few minutes every couple of hours getting in a mental mood. Let your imagination run wild, and allow your thoughts and fantasies to be completely uninhibited (no judgment, no insecurity). You can go as deep as you want, or maybe just keep it light and fun… remember this is for your enjoyment! You will be surprised how fun and exciting this makes an ordinary day. You’ll feel like you have a naughty little secret that you are carrying around with you! And this simple little trick will have you radiating sexuality. There is no way your partner will be able to keep their hands off of you!
3. Be flirtatious
Send little love connections to your partner throughout the day. Create a playful and fun interaction. Give them the message that you’re thinking about them and can’t wait to see them again (and WHY). Send them a naughty little email or text in the middle of the day while you are both at work… that will make their heart flutter! Invite them home for lunch and serve it in something completely inappropriate (hint, make sure the kids are at school or Grandmas)!
Having trouble getting inspired? Take a trip back in time and dig up the memories of some of your steamiest sexual experiences. Really GO there… relive them. Then, invite your lover back in time with you by sending them a thought-provoking reminder. Literally spread the love.
4. Spark the sex talk
One of the sexiest things you can do with your partner is simply talk about sex. So on your next date, center your conversation around what turns you on, what you fantasize about, and what you like. Or, if you really want to take it to the next level, have this conversation in bed while you’re kissing, touching and exploring each other. Be sure to create a place of oneness and connection so both of you can feel safe and non-judged by your thoughts and feelings. You will be amazed at the intimacy this can create… you can learn so much about each other, go so deep and get so close with this simple act of communication.
Make it a personal and relationship goal to apply the same “personal growth” commitment to the bedroom, and really open yourself up to new and empowering experiences. Go beyond your comfort zone!
5. Create your sexual environment
Imagine walking into a bedroom with an unmade bed, laundry on the floor, and the TV blaring. Doesn’t create a very sexy mood, right? Now imagine entering into a spotless, shining bedroom, totally organized, with the bed made, candles lit, lights dimmed, and background music playing. Much better!
For those of you that are parents, making a ‘no kids zone’ somewhere in your home where just the two of you can connect without distractions is unbelievably effective in setting the mood. Even if you don’t have the intention to ‘go all the way,’ creating a sensual environment can set the tone for a purer, deeper, intimate connection with your lover.
6. Make it a top priority
Most of us tend to prioritize just about everything over sex, especially during the busy week. Of course feeding and bathing the kids before bed on a school night is a priority, but what about those after-dinner dishes? Eating dessert? Watching TV for 2 hours? Reading your book? These things can be wonderfully relaxing in moderation, but shouldn’t come at the expense of a healthy sex life. Make sure you’re being conscious about your priorities before you dive into all the busy work.
Here’s a tip that might help… Don’t let that steamy hot sex or deep intimate connection wait until the end of the day, when you are both exhausted and just want some shut-eye. Schedule it in! There is nothing better than starting your day earlier and spending that time in bed with your lover. Or meeting for lunch and forgetting to eat J! Make time for it. You’ll be amazed at how making this a priority can positively affect your other life categories. Try committing yourself to a top-priority sex life for just one week, and see what happens.
7. Don’t stop
After a night of fantastic connection, why let it stop there? Begin the cycle all over again the next day, from the top of this list. Get yourself feeling (and thinking) great. Send your lover a sexy text message about the night before. Keep the sex talk going, and the environment set.
The more you practice, the more it will become second nature to you. The more you become that sexual God/Goddess that is inside of you, the more fulfillment and enjoyment you will have in your sex life. Sex is meant to be enjoyable and fun, not drudgery or work – take control and make it so! Make sex one of the focal points of your day-to-day existence, and transform your life.